How Little Man's Bout With A Stomach Bug Sapped The Life Out Of Me

Little Man spent the past seven days getting over a stomach bug. It steam-rollered in last Monday after a weekend-long hockey tournament in Staten Island.

Oh. I'm sorry. You didn't know there were ice rinks in Staten Island? Well, there most certainly are. Right past that huge landfill, beyond those rusted-out holding tanks and across from that there brick building. The one surrounded by spiraling whorls of glinting, jagged, barbed-wire fence. Yes, the prison. The rink's right after that.

I'm sure he picked up this god forsaken virus in Staten Island. Because what good could ever come out of that place? I'm KIDDING! I met some very nice people during my time there. Just having a little fun after a very trying week.

But I'm still blaming Little Man's illness on Staten Island. Someone needs to pay for the days he spent moaning, shivering and sweating on the sofa. And for the round-the-clock nursing services provided by yours truly.

He went to bed on Sunday acting a little delirious. But I chalked it up to being beyond exhausted from all the skating and really didn't think much of it. So when I woke him up for school the next morning I was a little surprised to hear that he wanted to stay home. And even more surprised when he requested that I take his temperature.

I pulled out the thermometer mainly to humor him but guess what? He did indeed have a fever. A high one at that.

Which caused me to get all, wow, I'm really slipping in the mothering department. Used to be I was all over that shit. I could lay my palm on a burning forehead and practically tell you what the temperature would be.

Must be my friend Glynnis rubbing off on me. She once made her son go to school even though he was complaining of a hurt foot. Pulled some old brace from a previous injury out of the medicine cabinet, velcroed it on him and said toodle-loo. When she finally took him to the doctor she found out it was a hairline fracture.

But no matter. Glynnis is Scottish. Of the stiff-upper-lippish variety. Her kids have to be dying to stay home from school. Hairline fractures don't qualify. I, on the other hand, have been known to let them miss if they have a cold.

Here's the thing, though. That really hasn't happened in a while. Little Man and Big Man, tween and teenager that they are, have passed the stage of perpetual runny noses and bouts of strep throat or bronchitis every other week. All those bugs they caught when they were wee ones have paid off. In strong immune systems.

Behind us are the days when being home sick lasted a week and was measured in story time on the couch, group naps and endless viewings of Winnie the Pooh. When real time would stop and all appointments and errands cancelled except for a run to the doctor's office and then maybe one to the toy store for a "sick" present.

So it truly threw me when Little Man went down for the count of seven, count 'em seven, days. I was completely out of practice. And, I'm embarrassed to admit, not really interested in getting back into practice.

Don't misunderstand, Little Man got great TLC. Cold wash rags and glasses of icy ginger ale before he even asked for them.

But I noticed something about myself that made me feel kind of guilty. I couldn't quite surrender to the fact that both of us weren't going anywhere anytime soon --he to school and me from his sick bed. We could have actually checked into that Staten Island prison because I don't think we breathed the outside air all week except for a visit to the walk-in clinic.

Which got me thinking. How did I do it when they were babies, then toddlers, then nursery-schoolers, then grade-schoolers? That's a LONG time of doing it. And really, not so long ago. I don't remember being particularly bothered by it. It was just what I did. I'm sure being a little brain-dead helped.

But now. Now I had a LIFE god dammit! I had yoga classes to go to, and meetings to attend and blog posts to Tweet about and the next great American novel to write. Not that I didn't have some semblance of a life separate from them when they were younger. I guess I was just more apt to set it aside.

Until their maturing immune systems granted me a stay from childhood illnesses and I tasted a freedom I never thought possible!  A freedom that guaranteed they would go to school in the morning and not come home until 3 in the afternoon! And, if they were home for a week, it was because they were on vacation, not, god forbid, sick!

I'm happy to report that today, going on a full week later, Little Man has finally re-entered the land of the living. He's still a bit pale, doesn't have a whole lot of energy and is as skinny as a blade of grass but he's definitely turned a corner.

And me? I'm not really sure what to do with myself. Although I did get a hit of cool evening air when I took all the empty ginger ale and Advil bottles out to the curb to be recycled. It was my first time out of the house in a while. I have to admit, freedom never smelled so sweet.

Top O' The Morning to You, Internet!

Dear Internet,

It's 7:41 a.m. as I write this and there's a very big reason why I'm sitting here, tapping away at my computer, instead of sitting in my car driving Little Man to school.

That reason, dear Internet, is you!

You see, when Little Man asked me this morning to give him a ride, for one brief moment, I paused. He looked at me through sleepy eyes, hair askew from battling his pillow all night and said softly, "I'm just so tired."

And I thought what's the harm, really? I know I said they had to walk from now on but after all, he'd be walking by himself today because Big Man is home sick. It's just one ride, right? But that one ride to a middle-schooler could be like just one drink to an alcoholic. And we all know where that story goes.

I had an even bigger dilemma as I went back and forth over whether or not to give Little Man a ride this morning. What, exactly, would I tell the Internet if I did?

After my last blog resolution, where I wrote that I'd no longer be chauffeuring Big Man and Little Man to and from school each day? Where I admitted to monster-like morning behavior and committed to putting an end to the before-school insanity? You all wrote back and told me that you've been there too. And to stay strong. That I'm doing the right thing

So, I said no. Even after Little Man, his bed-head now plastered down with water, tried one last time to change my mind before he walked out the door. Walked.

And it's all because of your support and encouragement, Internet. I feel like I've been handed a big pot of gold. You are the 12-Step Program for Push-over Mothers.

The Hidden Benefits Of Walking To School

Last night I laid down the law. Now that it's March and getting warmer, I will no longer be driving Big Man and Little Man to school. From this moment on, it is their responsibility to get themselves out of the house and walk the half mile each morning. Mom's car service is closed for the season.

Today, as dawn broke and the birds chirped, I awoke a little cheerier. Because I knew we would be spared our usual maddening routine.

The one where I keep prodding them to get out of the house. The one where after I've said repeatedly, "Let's go!" I find Big Man sitting in his room staring into space in his bare feet. The one where I storm outside in my coat-covered pajamas and sit in the car waiting for him to drag his butt out while laying on the horn fuming, "Tomorrow, I don't care how fucking cold it is, you're gonna walk!"

Now, Little Man, bless his heart, usually manages to get into the car on time. Sometimes he even gets in before me. Probably because he's scarred for life over the way I rip Big Man a new asshole some mornings.

You see once Big Man finally slinks into the car, eyes down and shoulders slumped, I am no longer in the driver's seat. Satan has replaced me at the wheel. A volcano of poison spews from His mouth for what seems an eternity. Then comes deafening silence save for the popping and screeching of His head as it spins and my head reappears just in time to pull over near the crossing guard where Big Man and Little Man scurry frantically out.

I drive home with a neck ache feeling completely crappy about the way I blew up all the while knowing it's my fault because I don't make it their responsibility to get out of the house on time.

But not any more. The insanity stops this morning. Big Man and Little Man are now expected to get themselves to school.

I brace myself for a million excuses from Big Man. Miraculously he seems to be on schedule for an on-time departure. But much to my surprise, Little Man hobbles down the hall telling me he can't put any pressure on his leg. And at 7:40, when he should be fully dressed and out the door, I find him sitting on the couch still in his robe.

Little Man. What are you kidding me? Do you think I'm new? Besides, do you really want to be driven to school by the devil?

I reassure him that he probably pulled a muscle at hockey practice last night and the best way to make his leg feel better is to stretch it out by walking. To school.

Finally he gets ready. He hobbles down the front steps, gives me one last forlorn look, then makes his way down our street with a jerky limp looking like he's been suddenly afflicted with St. Vitus's dance.

Five minutes later he texts me:

"Im nedver gona mak it"

I text back:

"U can do it! Keep moving!"

After school, Big Man makes it home first. Then Little Man rounds the corner. Miracle of miracles! He's no longer limping! He's been healed! A shining example of the many health benefits of walking to school. Not to mention the psychological ones. Theirs and mine.

The Agony And The Ecstasy: Our Post-Olympics Depression

As Little Man and I took in the Olympics closing ceremony last night and the fake snow fell on the upturned faces of the amazing athletes and Neil Young's mournful harmonica belted out "Long May You Run," he turned to me all sad and dejected-like and wailed, "What am I going to watch on TV, now?"

Little Man, I share your pain. For what is television without the Olympics? Mostly a numbing void of stupid "reality" shows and "entertainment news." Car wrecks of lives that we can't seem to pull ourselves away from no matter how hard we try.

Post-Olympic TV is a depressing prospect indeed after vicariously tasting the glory and the agony of an eclectic bunch of men and women who've single-mindedly devoted their young lives to being the best that they can possibly be.

I have to say that the sport I'm going to miss the most is curling. Watching this charmingly-quirky, old-fashioned game steadies me after all the gasping and holding of breath that I do during the ski slope and ice rink antics. Curling is the perfect yin to the other sports' yang.

Big Man's spot-on curling commentary never fails to make me laugh:

"The stone is sliding, Jim. It's sliding.

The ladies are scrubbing. They're scrubbing.

She's releasing the stone now, Jim. She's releasing.

And the ladies are scrubbing. They're scrubbing.

I tell you Jim, if they don't get a medal out of this, they should consider opening up a Mighty Maids franchise. These girls are good scrubbers!"

Here's Little Man's commentary while watching the Swedish curlers:

"There's the hot one!"

What I'd like to know is, what the hell are they saying to each other while all that sliding and scrubbing is going on? It's like some secret, made-up language that only twins can understand.

But now, dear Olympians, our television stands dark in our living room. And I imagine you today in your Olympic Village, packing your bags, saying your tearful farewells to your team mates and rivals, perhaps throwing a few good-natured snowballs.

But before I say goodbye to you, I'd like to say merci.

For showing us, over these past few weeks, that behind your excruciatingly beautiful grace and breathtaking skill is hard work, patience, pain, sacrifice and loss -- of medals and, sadly, even precious life.

Thank you for allowing us to soar with you over the snow-covered peaks then gently setting us down, leaving us inspired to, as corny as this sounds, achieve our own personal bests. Because the lives of we mere mortals are often just as challenging as an Olympic athlete's --along with the joy of being human, there's hard work, pain and heartbreak.

And one last thing, dear gods and goddesses of Olympus. Please help me stay away from reality TV!